“Technically speaking, selective hearing is not “deafness” to a certain sound message.”
“Rather, it is the selectivity of an individual to attend audibly to a sound message. The whole sound message is physically heard by the ear but the idea is the capacity of the mind to systematically filter out unwanted information.” World Health Organization
Do you have selective hearing?
Hopefully you do.
When you woke up this morning, before everyone scrambled in different directions, did anyone say to you, “Why can’t you pick up the dry cleaning on your way home?”
Once you arrived at the office this morning, someone might have said, to no one, but everyone, “You can’t do things this way, people. You can’t. You can’t. You can’t!
“You used to…”
Be selective in what you hear today.
If your brain actually has the capability of blocking out negative information, then turn on your negative filter.
Begin to filter the audio sensory junk that is all around you.
Train your brain.
I am quite aware that all of us can at times benefit from constructive criticism.
But not destructive denigration.
Wanna have more impact within your organization?
Negate the negative.
Wanna win five state championships in women’s basketball like my good friend, Coach A.C. McCullers?
Find the strengths of each individual player and mold them together.
Push them “up” to a new level of play.
You do not have to tell another individual, player or co-worker what they can’t do?
They are already quite aware that they can’t do it.
They might not be aware, however, of what they can do.
Those who wish to motivate and inspire would do well to understand selective hearing.
If ever other word you say is a negative word, then guess what?
They are only hearing every other word of what you are actually saying.
Therefore, you are wasting your efforts.
When leading, find the motivational factors of others.
When following, turn on your auditory filter, and only allow in that which motivates you to better yourself and those around you.