To Be Little

I am not as sensitive to the “bullying defense” as others might be.

In fifth grade, I discovered the way to overcome bullying was to take my right hand, to ball it up into a fist, and place it squarely in the general direction of the bully’s eyes and nose.

Problem solved.

Valuable lesson learned for me and the bully.

What is dangerous, even more than bullying, is the constant belittling of a person.

The persistent daily drippings of lessening the potential of an individual.

To discredit, to laugh at, to bring down.

Always at the expense of your own confidence.

That is when you have to decide two things.

To choose not to be little.

You have to make a decision that you will not shrink to that level.

To discern, discover and decide who you are to keep in your life and who you are not.

To remove people from your life that do not empower you to be better and do better.

Not easy decisions to make.

You may be married to the proverbial “Job’s wife” if you are a man.

You may be married to the proverbial “Nabal” if you are a woman.

(For those not familiar with Biblical writings, Google the previous two references.)

 

You may have a boss, or even a close friend, that out of their own insecurities, they belittle you daily.

If someone in your life uses these words or phrases, “You can’t, You don’t, You won’t”, then those are the voices in your life you need to rid yourself of.

Listen for the voices that use words or phrases like, “You can, you do, you will.”

You need, we all need, people to speak truth into our lives but not as a destructive force.

Truth is not spoken as a dagger drenched in your own blood after it has been plunged into your heart over and over again.

Truth is spoken in love in order to make you better, to lift you up and to empower you.

The power that anyone has over you, as they belittle you is the power you gave them.

You have chosen to be little.

Protect you dream.

You are the only that truly can.