No one is immune.
If there was an immunization for disappointment I would happily take a shot in the arm, hip, mind and especially the heart to take preemptive measures.
By disappointment, I am not referencing life changing events, tragedies or major catastrophic events.
By disappointment, I am referencing day in day out, “this did not turn out like I wanted it to” kind of events.
There was no loss of life, but what you wanted to happen did not turn out the way you envisioned.
Authors Admission: Today, I experienced disappointment and I decided that rather than disappointment defeating me, I would in turn defeat it. Actually, I had the opportunity to do this more than once. Disappointment, the ever present companion in life.
We move on immediately.
We have to move on immediately.
Moving on from that moment when your heart sank and every ounce of positive energy left your body.
Disappointment gains it’s foothold in our lives in the waning moments of that disappointing event.
Something did not turn out like you wanted, and now, because you can’t and won’t move on, that moment has stretched into an hour and now is looking like it may stretch into a day, if not longer.
I have met people who have lived for years under a cloud of disappointment from an event that took place many, many years ago.
If people disappoint you, move on.
If you disappoint yourself, move on.
To remain in that moment isolates you from the best friend you have, and that is you.
You are your best friend.
Others may attempt to cheer you up and inspire you to keep going, but it is you, and only you, that can make the decision to move on from disappointment.
And move on fast.
Joel Osteen wrote in his book, Your Best Life Now, “You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.”
On a movie set, two words that divide the past from the future are, “Moving on.”
When a director makes that announcement, the entire set knows that whatever has been done, is done.
No one is going back nor staying in the present.
The entire set is moving forward toward the next set up.
Didn’t get the business deal you had worked so hard on?
The candidate you wanted to hire just informed you that they are accepting an offer from your main competitor?
The car you so desperately wanted is still $2,799.00 out of your price range and budget?
Whatever the disappointment is, however large it is, or however impossible it might seem to forget.
You have GOT to move on.
When you are always looking forward to the potential of the future you do not have to linger in the disappointment of the past.